Monday, April 14, 2014

A Toy Story Party


My little guy just turned two.  I'm a big believer in theme parties, and this year I decided to make his a Toy Story theme.  This is because my son has a mild obsession with Buzz Lightyear and has seen Toy Story more times than I can count.  For the longest time we had precisely two movies downloaded on our iPad- Toy Story and Finding Nemo.  They were Devon's road trip treat, and the little guy would watch Toy Story over and over and over again for as long as the road trip would allow.  One leg of a 13 hour trip he watched Toy Story on repeat The.Entire.Time. That means that the hubby and I listened to Toy Story for 13 hours straight.  And as much as it made me feel like I was going a little crazy, I still laughed at most of the jokes.  Now that, my friends is a sign of a good movie…or of a slightly crazed mom who has spent too much time of the road.  Either way, the experience was the inspiration for celebrating two years of life.  


It was a great day.  Devon loved having so many friends and cousins around to play with and I always enjoy having a full home. Here are a few photos of the day:












 My mom found some Toy Story themed paper airline cut outs, so we held a contest to see who could throw theirs the furthest. 






The Party Details:





I thought it would be fun to make the kids some "Buzz wings" to run around in.  They were so easy and literally cost me nothing to make (I had all the supplies on hand- cardboard, string, computer paper, and colored duct tape).  I figured that the kids would wear them for about five minutes and then be done with them, but they ended up being a huge hit.  First the kids colored in their wings when they arrived, and then they all wore them for the rest of the party.  It's been a week since the party and D still loves to wear his wings and pretend to fly to the moon.  



These green aliens were, by far, my favorite thing I made for the party though.  








"Barbie's prop closet" was where we kept an assortment of Toy Story inspired dress up stuff.  Because what's a party if you don't get to dress a little silly?





The kiddos with their wings























Monday, March 10, 2014

On miscarriage

One month ago today, on February 10th, I lost my second child on the last day of my first trimester. One month later it is still difficult to describe exactly how I feel about the whole thing. 

I feel peaceful. The Lord gave me a moment during the actual miscarriage, and it is one that I will cherish for the rest of my days. As I laid there on the floor, body contracting, heart in anguish, it was as though I could see God pulling that sweet baby up to Him and His arms. In my heart I heard God telling me to trust Him. In the hours that passed while we were at the hospital hymn after hymn kept coming into my mind, songs about God's grace and love. I'll never know why we lost that precious child, but I have a Father who commands that I trust Him, who holds an imperfect world in the palm of his perfect hand. So I have peace and, as the songs says, it is well with my soul.  

I feel sad. I don't think you can ever understand grief until you've lived it. One moment you're going about your day, making meal plans and looking for your keys, and then next your heart aches for a face you have never seen, for a cry you have never heard, for a life that you were created to love. But peace always follows the sadness, and I am learning how to, in a healthy way, embrace that sadness. I believe that we are supposed to grieve the loss of life, the effects of the Fall and consequence of living in a sinful world. It helps us long for heaven, a place of life and perfection, where there is no sin or pain, a place that is our true home. We are designed to crave being inside those pearly gates. It is hard sometimes, living here on earth. We need reminding that this is just a temporary place, that one day all that our soul longs for will be fulfilled. Our perfect Savior made the ultimate sacrifice so that we can gain a citizenship to the one place that is our lasting home. So I am sad now, but I trust that one day I will see that precious child again, and on that day there will only be tears of joy. 

I feel out of control. It's so easy to feel like you are the one in charge of things. "I want our life to look like this, our finances to reflect that, etc." In the past twelve months God has shaken all of those things. We have set out on an enormous journey of faith, handing him our pride, our finances, our future, our physical address, and now our family. Getting pregnant has, thus far, been easy for us (which we are so blessed for), and it never occurred to me that we could loose a baby. I thought that I at least was in control of when we would or wouldn't add to our family. How foolish. And so, once again, God is stripping away the misconception in my mind of being in control of our crazy life. The truth is that God's plan is way more perfect than mine ever could be. So I have to let go, look to the Lord, and take that giant leap of faith. What a leap it is. 

There is more, of course. I am a woman after all and thus have a myriad of thoughts and feeling and emotions about all matter of things. But those are the three main things I figured I'd cover. So here I am, mother of two, parent to one, trusting in the one God who is worthy, and the one God who is ready to catch me when I make my leaps of faith. 

Ready, set, jump!

Sunday, March 2, 2014

The story of Punchinello

I was reminded of this story last week and have been thinking of it daily ever since. God has been reminding me that it doesn't matter what other people think- whether it be good, or negative things. All that matters is the Lord's opinion. 


You Are Special
by Max Lucado

The Wemmicks were small wooden people. Each of the wooden people was carved by a woodworker named Eli. His workshop sat on a hill overlooking their village. Every Wemmick was different. Some had big noses, others had large eyes. Some were tall and others were short. Some wore hats, others wore coats. But all were made by the same carver and all lived in the village. And all day, every day, the Wemmicks did the same thing: They gave each other stickers. Each Wemmick had a box of golden star stickers and a box of gray dot stickers. Up and down the streets all over the city, people could be seen sticking stars or dots on one another.

The pretty ones, those with smooth wood and fine paint, always got stars. But if the wood was rough or the paint chipped, the Wemmicks gave dots. The talented ones got stars, too. Some could lift big sticks high above their heads or jump over tall boxes. Still others knew big words or could sing very pretty songs. Everyone gave them stars.

Some Wemmicks had stars all over them! Every time they got a star it made them feel so good that they did something else and got another star. Others, though, could do little. They got dots.

Punchinello was one of these. He tried to jump high like the others, but he always fell. And when he fell, the others would gather around and give him dots.

Sometimes when he fell, it would scar his wood, so the people would give him more dots. He would try to explain why he fell and say something silly, and the Wemmicks would give him more dots. After a while he had so many dots that he didn't want to go outside. He was afraid he would do something dumb such as forget his hat or step in the water, and then people would give him another dot. In fact, he had so many gray dots that some people would come up and give him one without reason. "He deserves lots of dots," the wooden people would agree with one another. "He's not a good wooden person."

After a while Punchinello believed them. "I'm not a good Wemmick," he would say. The few times he went outside, he hung around other Wemmicks who had a lot of dots. He felt better around them.

One day he met a Wemmick who was unlike any he'd ever met. She had no dots or stars. She was just wooden. Her name was Lucia. It wasn't that people didn't try to give her stickers; it's just that the stickers didn't stick. Some admired Lucia for having no dots, so they would run up and give her a star. But it would fall off. Some would look down on her for having no stars, so they would give her a dot. But it wouldn't stay either. 'That's the way I want to be,'thought Punchinello. 'I don't want anyone's marks.' So he asked the stickerless Wemmick how she did it. "It's easy," Lucia replied. "every day I go see Eli."

"Eli?" "Yes, Eli. The woodcarver. I sit in the workshop with him." "Why?" "Why don't you find out for yourself? Go up the hill. He's there."

And with that the Wemmick with no marks turned and skipped away. "But he won't want to see me!" Punchinello cried out. Lucia didn't hear. So Punchinello went home. He sat near a window and watched the wooden people as they scurried around giving each other stars and dots. "It's not right," he muttered to himself. And he resolved to go see Eli. He walked up the narrow path to the top of the hill and stepped into the big shop. His wooden eyes widened at the size of everything. The stool was as tall as he was. He had to stretch on his tiptoes to see the top of the workbench. A hammer was as long as his arm. Punchinello swallowed hard. "I'm not staying here!" and he turned to leave. Then he heard his name.

"Punchinello?" The voice was deep and strong. Punchinello stopped. "Punchinello! How good to see you. Come and let me have a look at you." Punchinello turned slowly and looked at the large bearded craftsman. "You know my name?" the little Wemmick asked.

"Of course I do. I made you." Eli stooped down and picked him up and set him on the bench. "Hmm," the maker spoke thoughtfully as he inspected the gray circles. "Looks like you've been given some bad marks." "I didn't mean to, Eli. I really tried hard." "Oh, you don't have to defend yourself to me, child. I don't care what the other Wemmicks think." "You don't?"

No, and you shouldn't either. Who are they to give stars or dots?
They're Wemmicks just like you. What they think doesn't matter, Punchinello. All that matters is what I think. And I think you are pretty special."
Punchinello laughed. "Me, special? Why? I can't walk fast. I can't jump. My paint is peeling. Why do I matter to you?"

Eli looked at Punchinello, put his hands on those small wooden shoulders, and spoke very slowly. "Because you're mine. That's why you matter to me."
Punchinello had never had anyone look at him like this--much less his maker. He didn't know what to say.
"Every day I've been hoping you'd come," Eli explained.
"I came because I met someone who had no marks."
"I know. She told me about you."
"Why don't the stickers stay on her?"
"Because she has decided that what I think is more important than what they think. The stickers only stick if you let them."

"What?"
"The stickers only stick if they matter to you. The more you trust my love, the less you care about the stickers."
"I'm not sure I understand."
"You will, but it will take time. You've got a lot of marks. For now, just come to see me every day and let me remind you how much I care." Eli lifted Punchinello off the bench and set him on the ground. "Remember," Eli said as the Wemmick walked out the door. "You are special because I made you. And I don't make mistakes."

Punchinello didn't stop, but in his heart he thought, "I think he really means it."
And when he did, a dot fell to the ground. 

May all your dots fall silently to the ground, for if given by man, they matter only to other men, if given by the Gods, no one questions, the scars that make up our lives. (when given the choice, pass out stars, drop the dots in the trash.) 

- Max Lucado






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Friday, November 15, 2013

My little guy has figured out how to take photographs of himself on my phone.  
Enter about a bagillion selfies magically appearing on my phone.

Mother of Four

 Last September I flew out to Charleston to visit my brother's family. Rob and Linds were heading to Colorado for Rob's 10 year reunion (I still cannot believe he's been out of college for TEN years.  I mean, when did we all get SO OLD?!) and I got to babysit while they were gone.

Yup, thats right.  One five year old, one three year old, a set of one year old "twins," a mildly neurotic dog and me.  It was fabulous.  It was also exhausting.  I might also mention mildly chaotic at times.
I loved it.  I loved being surrounded by such beautiful little souls.  Sure, life is really crazy when its just you with a ton of kids, but it is SO FULL.  Full of joy and laughter and squeals and hugs and love.  Even with the compounded mess and chaos and tears and whines and moments when I felt like poking out my eyes, I just felt so overwhelmingly blessed to be a part of these children's' lives. They make my life so rich.